True satisfaction and happiness(The True husband- Jesus) (John 4:13-18)

True satisfaction and happiness(Who is true husband?) (John 4:13-18)

Everyone born into this world has the right to pursue their own happiness. We all want to be happy. That is why many people work hard, for the happiness of themselves and their families. People are living as if the goal of life is to achieve happiness. This in itself is not bad. So, what is the problem here? The problem lies in the way and method to pursue happiness. People choose the wrong path to happiness. Many people work hard to make money because they think that having a lot of it will make them happy. Some people think getting married will make them happy, but is this always true? Are people always happy because they have money, get married, and own what they want? I believe it is clear that no matter how much money people have, no matter how much their circumstances change, these things do not bring true satisfaction and happiness.

So how do we achieve a happy life? The first thing to know is that humans did not evolve from monkeys to become humans, but are personal beings created by God. God created human beings as personal ones, “you and I,” to have fellowship and love. What do these personal beings, humans, need for a happy and meaningful life in this world? Good relationships are absolutely essential for happiness and satisfaction. Happiness is found in a relationship where we love, respect, and bless each other. Marriage does not necessarily bring happiness, but there happiness can be found in husbands and wives who love, respect, and enjoy oneness together. When parents and children have a good relationship with each other, there is peace and happiness in the home. When we have good relationships at work, we can enjoy a happy and meaningful work life.


But more than any other relationship in this world, the relationship that determines our happiness is our relationship with Jesus. Do you want eternal happiness and satisfaction? If so, please try to answer this question. Who is Jesus to you? Many of you probably know Jesus as Savior and Lord. But, do any of you think of Jesus as the bridegroom? Do you know what kind of happiness and blessings come from a relationship where Jesus lives as the bridegroom? We all live and experience thirst in life. But Jesus promises for us today a wonderful and satisfying life in which we will never be thirsty. Through today’s Word, I want to invite you to the wonderful blessings of the Lord.

Jesus purposely visited a wounded and lonely woman at a well in Samaria. Jesus spoke to the thirsty woman first. What did He say? Let’s read the word together.

“(John 4:13-14NIV) Jesus answered, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”

What does water from this world mean? It means all things we pursue for happiness, such as the wealth of this world or other relationships. Many things in this beautifully created world give us happiness and contentment. Relationships with loved ones, delicious food, beautiful places, beautiful flowers and lovely dogs… Many things in this world can give us temporary happiness. But the Lord promises eternal satisfaction and happiness that will never thirst. “but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”

Dear brothers and sisters, have you ever seen a spring of water gushing out? Jesus promises joy, peace, and true satisfaction that will continue to spring up within you like a well of water that springs up from the earth.

Where in the world does this sort of happiness come from? How can we drink this water that Jesus gives us?

The water that Jesus gives will “become a spring of water welling up into eternal life”. The woman became interested and asked him questions.

The woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water so that I won’t get thirsty and have to keep coming here to draw water.”

He told her, “Go, call your husband and come back.”(Jn4:15-16)

What kind of thirst did the woman have? The reason the Lord told the woman to call her husband was because she believed her husband would be able to quench her thirst. Further, Jesus wanted to show this woman that Jesus was her true husband and her savior.

Here is a very important truth: When we meet Jesus as our true Husband and Lover, we will experience a spring of water welling up within us.When we meet Jesus as our bridegroom, we can experience eternal satisfaction without thirst.

The reason Jesus came to meet this wounded woman is to give her true salvation. The reason Jesus came to this woman is to reveal to her that her true husband, Jesus, should be the object of true worship and the object of her true love. Who is Jesus? He is fully God and fully human. Jesus is not only the Savior and Lord, but He is the Bridegroom. The church is the bride of Jesus. The most intimate relationship in the world is that of husband and wife. It is a united relationship. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.(Eph 5:31-32)

As a man becomes one flesh with his wife, so Christ Jesus and the church are one.

Will I be happy if I get married because I feel lonely when I am alone? There is happiness in a loving relationship. When a husband and wife respect and love each other and become one spiritually and in their hearts, there is true unity, and true happiness and satisfaction. When people get married because they love each other, but fail to maintain a loving relationship consistently, a crisis may come into the marriage life, making the couple enemies against each other. Therefore, more important than marriage is the preparation of a mature personality. More important than marriage is living in a loving relationship. And maintaining that loving and respectful relationship is never easy. That is why many people that marry because they love each other get a divorce.

There are many relationships in this world. But what is the most intimate relationship in the world? It is not a parent-child relationship, but the most intimate relationship shown in the Bible is that of husband and wife. There is happiness and satisfaction in that intimacy.

But in the Bible, God says that He is the husband, and we, the church, are the bride. In other words, He wants us to enjoy true satisfaction and happiness in intimacy with the bridegroom of Jesus. That is why God calls Himself the husband or the bridegroom.

(Jeremiah 3:14) “Return, faithless people,” declares the LORD, “for I am your husband. God calls Himself the husband of the Israelites.

Listen to the words of the prophet Hosea. (Ho 2:19-20) I will betroth you to me forever; I will betroth you in righteousness and justice, in love and compassion. I will betroth you in faithfulness, and you will acknowledge the LORD.

He says that by marrying the Israelites, they will come to know God.

God wants an intimate relationship between the children of God and the bridegroom. God wants us to enjoy the happiness of a married couple in our relationship with God, where there are no secrets, where there is love and respect for each other. Where we give our entire beings to each other, and thus enjoy the intimacy and happiness of being one.

“Come, for I am your husband, my heart is burning and longing for intimate communion with you. I want a close relationship with you, a heart-to-heart connection.” This is the heart of God. We are all precious brides of God and of Jesus.

Jesus died on the cross to break down the wall of sin between us and God, and now those who believe that their sins are forgiven through the blood of Jesus will be restored to their status as children of God. Now, we are brides who live with Jesus as the groom. Through the cross, the relationship between Jesus and us as the church has been restored to such an intimate relationship. So now, as brides, we can enjoy the blessing of unity and the happiness of intimacy while having intimate fellowship with the Lord, the groom, through the Word and prayer. What a wonderful blessing this is.

But the fact is that the Lord loves us more deeply than we love Jesus. Have you ever been unable to sleep because you loved someone so much? There may have been times when your heart beats and you can’t sleep when you think of the person you like. But did you know that Jesus loves you so much that he can’t sleep?

Song of Songs 4:9. You have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride; you have stolen my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace.

King Solomon in the Song of Songs symbolizes Jesus and the Shulammite woman symbolizes the church. Through these words, Jesus is portrayed as a man who has lost his heart to the bride. Simply put, Jesus loves the church, the bride, so much that he can’t sleep. It describes the heart of Jesus who misses you so much and wants to be with you.

Do you love Jesus? Do you have joy and peace in your heart and enjoy true satisfaction because of the beloved Jesus? The reason Jesus told the woman to bring her husband was to reveal Jesus, the bridegroom and the object of true love. I wish you the blessing of a close relationship like Jesus and the groom has.


Long ago, when I was living in the United States, I went through a difficult time when I had to go on a sabbatical without income due to difficulties in the church, while applying for permanent residency. During this time, I went through the darkest tunnel of my life. During this period, I prayed on a Sunday morning in the 24-hour prayer room at the International House of Prayer. That day, the praise team was singing and praising of the Lord’s love with soft instruments such as the violin and cello. Most of the lyrics of the song were from the Song of Songs, and at that time, I was praying while reading the 4th chapter of that book. At that moment, I suddenly felt the heart of the Lord, and could hear His voice. ‘Daniel, do you know how much I delight in you, how beautiful I think of you? You are without blemish.” Through the entire chapter of Song of Songs 4, I heard Jesus professing his love for me. “I lost my heart because of you.” And at the same time, the words of Zephaniah 3:17 came to mind. “The LORD your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing.”

At the moment of hearing this voice, the frustrations and weight of the dark time because of ministry problems, financial difficulties, and the burden of writing a doctoral thesis quickly melted away, and at the same time, a joy and freedom from the Lord rose in my heart. And without realizing it, tears of joy were flowing from my eyes. Through Song of Solomon chapter 4, I was given the precious experience of meeting the Lord, the bridegroom who loves me and pleases me. During this time, He gave me an inner voice that became a great turning point in my ministry and in my life. This voice clearly told me that Jesus was not calling me for ministry, but was calling me  into a close and loving relationship with the Lord. This one person, Jesus, was enough for me. It was truly an amazing experience of Jesus becoming my bridegroom. 

We are going through a really frustrating and difficult time. And we all live in thirst. What can give us the true satisfaction we never thirst for? It is a loving relationship. I hope that you will experience true happiness in a close and loving relationship with Jesus. Please experience Jesus as the bridegroom. Now, I hope you love Jesus more than anything else. Jesus wants to communicate with you through his written words. He wants to have fellowship through prayer in the Holy Spirit. From now on, in intimacy with Jesus, the Lord will give you joy and happiness that this world can never give. I hope that you will enjoy this wonderful happiness and satisfaction that Jesus, the bridegroom, gives you.

Secondly, there is another thing we must do in order to obtain eternal happiness. This thing is that we have to solve the husband problem.

When Jesus reveals himself to be her true husband and asks her to call her husband, the woman, astonishingly confesses, “I have no husband.” This confession was a true inner confession from the woman. This confession was one that said “There is no man who truly gives me love and gives me satisfaction.”

What must we do for a truly satisfying life? We must forsake the false husband and choose the true one. A husband is an object of love and belonging, respect and intimacy. Here, the husband represents the rest or satisfaction that the world gives. A “husband” can be said to be the things that you trust and rely on to quench your thirst. But even to her surprise, she confesses that she “has no husband.”

The Lord approves of her words. Human beings cannot be satisfied with their earthly husbands. Even if we changed our “husbands” 10 different times, in the end we have no choice but to confess, “I have no husband.” This is because human beings are spiritual beings who can only find true satisfaction in God. This is because human thirst is spiritual thirst, and this thirst can only be satisfied with God’s love. Everything in this world, such as love, material things, and power, is like drinking salt water: the more you drink it, the thirstier we get. Ultimately, this woman’s thirst is a thirst for God and a spiritual thirst for Jesus, the true husband.

What did you think about the most during the week? What stresses you the most? Is it your children? Money? Studying? Is it your ministry? The things that hold your heart, the things that you alway consider to be the most important things, the things that you feel like you can’t live without, the things that you consider to be the only thing in your life, all of these things can be idols. Those things that you love and depend on more than you depend on God become idols. Even if you consider your husband, wife, or children as more important than God, it can become an idol. Studying can become an idol if studying takes priority over the Lord.

God said, “You shall not make for yourself a carved image.” The greatest idol in life is the ‘self’. When we become too egocentric, we use God as merely a tool to meet our needs. We use God as an instrument to receive blessings.

Have you met Jesus, the true husband and the object of love? Can I confess that Jesus is the object of my true love?

Like this thirsty woman in Samaria, if we fail to confess Jesus as the object of true love and worship, we will eventually confess, “I have no husband.” You will confess, ‘I haven’t found anything that really gives me true satisfaction.’

(John 4:13) “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”

The last thing to think about is, then, how are we going to drink this water? By drinking this water, we experience the spring of water springing up to eternal life and live in true satisfaction. The water here refers to the Holy Spirit.


On the last day, on the great day of the feast, Jesus stood and cried out, saying, “If anyone thirsts, let him come to Me and drink. He who believes in Me, as the Scripture has said, out of his heart will flow rivers of living water.” But this He spoke concerning the Spirit, whom those believing in Him would receive;(Jn 7:37-39a)

This water points to the Holy Spirit who indwells within us when we receive Jesus and are born again. Therefore, the specific way to experience “a well of water springing up to eternal life” is to have fellowship with the Bridegroom Jesus in the Holy Spirit. From the moment we wake up to the moment we lie down in bed, we can communicate and fellowship with Jesus in the Holy Spirit moment by moment. When we are fully governed and controlled by the Holy Spirit, we can profess our love for Jesus and live in His presence at every moment. Dear brothers and sisters, please live in unceasing conversation with the Holy Spirit. Work, walk, and talk in the Holy Spirit as you confess “I love you Jesus”. The moment you are with Jesus in the presence of the Holy Spirit, He will constantly fill you with heavenly joy and peace. When we are filled with the Holy Spirit, we will be able to live victoriously and powerfully in this weary and difficult world with new strength and power as if we are flying on the wings of an eagle.

Therefore, if you want to enjoy true satisfaction and happiness, drink the water that Jesus gives you. I hope that you will have regular fellowship with Jesus through the Word and prayer in the Holy Spirit.


As Jesus entered a village, Martha welcomed Jesus into her home. Mary’s sister sat at her Lord’s feet and listened to Jesus. But Martha was busy with preparations and her heart was busy. Then, Jesus told Martha that she was worried and troubled about many things, but one thing is enough. But because Mary had chosen this good side, it would not be taken away.

Please remember the voice of the Lord to us who are busy living like Martha today. “But one thing is needed”. There is only one thing that really matters. Do not forget that intimate fellowship with the Lord through the Word and prayer is a priority for a life of abundance and victory.


Who is Jesus to you? May Jesus be like the most loved and intimate bridegroom for you. “Whoever drinks the water I will give him will never thirst. The water I will give him will become in him a spring of water springing up to eternal life.”

I bless you in the name of the Lord that you will enjoy a truly satisfying and a truly happy life through intimate fellowship with Jesus in the Holy Spirit.


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